One of the most empowering aspects of being neurodiverse is the ability to choose how we are labeled and how we want others to engage with and talk about our neurodiversity.
Do we want to focus on specific traits like dyslexia, ADHD, or autism, or embrace a broader term such as neurodiversity? This choice allows us to shape how our unique ways of thinking are perceived and celebrated.
This week, I had a powerful conversation with one of my clients that highlights the importance of this perspective. My client had hired me as an executive coach for my expertise in creativity and visualization, not specifically for my neurodiversity background.
However, our work together took an unexpected turn when his 10-year-old son received the results of a series of tests designed to uncover why he was struggling in school.
The results revealed that his son is a “different thinker.” While my client initially described his child using terms like “learning disabilities” and focused on what his son couldn’t do, we shifted the conversation toward his son’s unique strengths.
My client began to light up as he shared stories of his son’s artistic talent, creativity, and remarkable ability to connect with people. This shift in focus was transformative for him—and potentially life-changing for his son.
Reframing the Narrative: From Disabled to Different
Language is powerful. When we describe ourselves or others as “disabled,” it can create limiting beliefs and focus attention on deficits rather than strengths.
Systems like traditional education are often structured in ways that exclude different thinkers, labeling them as “learning disabled” instead of recognizing their unique processing abilities.
Experiences with these systems and limiting beliefs can overshadow an essential truth: being neurodiverse is not about what we can’t do; it’s about celebrating what we can do. When we focus on strengths, we create space for growth, empowerment, and success.
For my client, the key takeaway was this: as he and his wife talk to their son, they must use language that emphasizes difference over disability. By focusing on their son’s gifts—his artistic abilities, his creativity, and his emotional intelligence—they can help him build confidence and resilience.
The Adult Perspective: Redefining Labels
This lesson isn’t just for children; it applies to adults, too.
Many of us received labels early in life that defined us according to what we couldn’t do within certain systems. But once we leave those systems, we gain the freedom to redefine ourselves.
What was once considered a “disability” might now be recognized as a unique way of thinking that enables innovation, creativity, and problem-solving.
As adults, we have the power to choose how we want to be identified. What labels serve you best? How can you communicate your neurodiversity in a way that highlights your strengths and celebrates your contributions?
A Call to Action
If you’re navigating your own neurodiversity journey, take a moment to reflect.
What strengths do you bring to the table that others might overlook?
How can you shift your language to focus on gifts rather than challenges? And if you’re a parent of a neurodiverse child, how can you help them see their unique value in the world?
As a neurodiversity coach, I’m here to support you in recognizing your different thinking, embracing the labels that empower you, and unlocking your potential to make a meaningful impact.
Celebrate your uniqueness, focus on your strengths, and remember: different thinking changes the world.
Here is to the great adventure of learning about yourself,
JoyGenea