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Written by Coach JoyGenea and notion AI
If you have an old belief that keeps bullying you, you don’t need a 12-step mindset makeover.
You need one fast move that breaks the spell.
To make your life SO easy I made a tool.
CLICK HERE TO BUILD JOKES AT YOUR LIMITING BELIEF
I heard this kind of internal trash talk this week from clients:
- “I suck as a leader. No one listens to me. I can’t even get the receptionist to do what I ask.”
- “I signed up for this class, but I’m not going to pass it. It’s too much reading and I get overwhelmed.”
If I heard someone say that about someone else, I would immediately know the outcome.
Not because it is “true.”
Because it is a verdict.
And here’s the part we forget:
Other people should not talk bad to us and judge our outcome. The same is true of ourselves.
The fastest way to break a stuck belief
The fastest way I know to break an old belief is hypnosis, but most people pucker up at the thought of that, so lets go with my number two option: laugh at it.
Comedians have it right and they always have. You have to be pretty dang smart to be a comedian and be able to get people to laugh at themselves and pay you lots of money to do it. That is brilliant.
Let’s be just as brilliant with yourself.
5 jokes for the “I suck as a leader” belief
Here are 5 jokes you can use to instantly shrink the bully voice:
- “I can’t even get the receptionist to do what I ask.” Honestly, that’s not a leadership failure. That’s evidence the receptionist is the CEO.
- If no one listens to me, I am not a bad leader. I am a podcast.
- My inner critic says I suck as a leader… which is wild, because my inner critic has never successfully led a team. It can barely lead a grocery list.
- “No one listens to you.” True. But to be fair, I have also ignored every good idea I have had since 2012.
- If leadership were measured by “how quickly people do what you ask,” then toddlers would be the world’s most powerful CEOs and I would like to hire one immediately.
You get it. Not in a fake, toxic-positivity way.
In a “nice try, bully” way.
Bullies don’t like to be laughed at.
They really don’t like it when you do not care what they say.
When you can make the belief funny, it stops feeling like prophecy and starts sounding like what it is:
A loud, outdated opinion.
CLICK HERE TO BUILD JOKES AT YOUR LIMITING BELIEF
Why laughter works (especially when you are overwhelmed)
Stuck beliefs usually win because they feel:
- serious
- urgent
- authoritative
Laughter changes the power dynamic.
It creates distance. There is nothing better in breakup than distance.
It tells your nervous system: “We’re not in danger. We’re just hearing a rude sentence.”
And once you have distance, you can choose your next move. You need that distance to get the chemistry in your brain flowing again so it can start to create creative solutions.
The 3-step “Laugh Break” method (under 5 minutes)
1) Catch the bully sentence
Write the belief exactly as it shows up.
No rewriting. No softening.
Example:
- “I suck as a leader. No one listens to me.”
2) Turn it into a joke
You have three options:
- DIY joke: exaggerate it until it is ridiculous.
- AI joke: paste the belief into an AI tool and ask it to write 10 jokes that make the belief sound silly and obviously wrong.
- CLICK HERE TO GO the JOKE BUILDER from Coach JoyGenea
AI Prompts you can copy into your own PERSONAL AI (not the work AI):
- “Write 10 short jokes that roast this belief like it’s a goofy internet troll: [PASTE BELIEF]”
- “Turn this belief into a stand-up comedy bit that ends with a punchline and a reality check: [PASTE BELIEF]”
- “Give me 10 playful comebacks to this inner bully: [PASTE BELIEF]”
3) Take one tiny proof action
Pick a micro-action that creates new evidence.
Leader example:
- Ask for one specific thing, in writing.
- “Can you do X by 2pm and reply YES when it’s done?”
Class example:
- Set a 10-minute timer.
- Read one page.
- Stop on purpose while it still feels possible.
You are not trying to “fix your whole life.”
You are building a trail of proof.
Remember our jokes from before?
5 jokes for the “I suck as a leader” belief
Here are 5 jokes you can use to instantly shrink the bully voice:
- “I can’t even get the receptionist to do what I ask.” Honestly, that’s not a leadership failure. That’s evidence the receptionist is the CEO.
- If no one listens to me, I am not a bad leader. I am a podcast.
- My inner critic says I suck as a leader… which is wild, because my inner critic has never successfully led a team. It can barely lead a grocery list.
- “No one listens to you.” True. But to be fair, I have also ignored every good idea I have had since 2012.
- If leadership were measured by “how quickly people do what you ask,” then toddlers would be the world’s most powerful CEOs and I would like to hire one immediately.
CLICK HERE TO BUILD JOKES AT YOUR LIMITING BELIEF
A joke that breaks the spell
Here’s what I mean by making it funny:
Some people think you get dumber as you gain weight. Which is funny, because I’ve never once asked my scale for advice.
That right there is the energy. Not cruel. Not denial.
Just: “I’m not letting a random voice run the show.”
Try it right now (30 seconds)
Fill in the blanks:
- My old belief is:
- The funniest comeback I can think of is:
- One tiny proof action I can do today is:
You do not need to win an argument with your belief.
You just need to stop treating it like it is in charge.
Your reminder: If you would never let someone else talk to you that way, you do not have to let your own mind talk to you that way either.
Go conquer the world and laugh at the inner bully,
Coach JoyGenea
Transcription:
You are not your limiting beliefs; you are living into your limiting beliefs, but you are not your limiting beliefs, and I’m not gonna go too deep into that. Instead I’m gonna give you some tangible things, so in particular I had a client recently make the comment about how they, somebody had made the comment that they weren’t much of a leader, and it was actually a very snarky employee that had corrupted a couple of other employees, so in particular a not efficient person that didn’t belong on the bus, meaning did not belong in their business, but they haven’t quite released them back into the wild, so that they could relocate themselves somewhere else anyhow it got- what it did was brought up for them what’s called a limiting belief, meaning you believe something that limits your growth. It’s called a limiting belief, limits your growth, and it brought this limiting belief that they were not a good leader, that somehow they they just- they didn’t have great leadership quality- complete BS. They’re leading hundreds of people, multi million dollar company, multiple it, just such crap, but this limiting belief is in there, and all of a sudden now it’s out and they’re feeling that, and it meant that they were actually leading from that place. They were starting to lead from the place of, I’m not a great leader and guess what, that does make you a not great leader, so I needed to convert them off of that quickly, and one of the fastest ways, one the long ways to permanently remove it is um, there’s a couple different ways, but one you kind of dig in, where did it come from? You disprove it. It’s a little- it’s a small process. It’s well worth doing. Another way that works very effectively is hypnosis, but for some people that makes them fucker, and they get too nervous so they miss out on that opportunity, all fine there’s other options.
And, another way in particular to dispel a bad limiting belief, a point where you are bullying yourself is to make fun of it, to find a way to laugh at it and make fun of it, and one of the easiest ways to do that right now is to utilize the tools that we have, and one of the tools that we have is AI, and I made a tool just to do this, so if you find yourself with this limiting type of belief meaning, so somebody makes a criticism or you find yourself I have a limiting belief about my body that I’m working on and working through and part of it goes that I’m not worthy of friends when I weigh over a certain weight. I’m not sure where that came from. I’m digging around a little bit. I’m pretty sure I know where it was located until I get it completely exercised out of my belief systems, when I see it appear I actually have five or six really good comebacks that make me laugh at that, and it depowers that bully in me, and I get to laugh. I just, I calmly laugh at it and I’m like oh that’s so not true. Did I mention like yeah, nobody said that and if they did, I wouldn’t take them seriously, like I just wouldn’t. I’d smile and laugh at them, so I’m like, I’m just gonna smile and laugh at you. Same type of thing so I have this really awesome I highly recommend, it’s down below in the comments or in the description, wherever we could put it there is a link to this, and oh my gosh I’m encouraging you to go play with this. It writes 10 jokes for you about a limiting belief, so you can just put in the whole you know, I feel like I’m not a great leader because of this, or whatever that limiting belief is, which I see a wide variety of them and it’s fun. It’s fun to get back those, those jokes and it gives you a little bit of encouragement, and it helps you find at least one action that you can take, so limiting beliefs, basically labels and identities that you have that keep you limited hence limiting beliefs, not founded in actual facts and not at all truthful that need to be rerooted, not always do we have the time or energy to like stop everything we’re doing and like right do the journaling. Haha, instead I created this really awesome tool that I’m giving away free use it as much as you want. Share it with your friends, have some fun because guess what, the thing your inner bully doesn’t like is when you have fun, because fun depowers it and energizes your amazing brain that’s excited to live that gets full on in life 100%. I want that for you, that is what you should be doing and what you deserve.
I’m JoyGenea unconventional leadership coach, person with really fading light colors- gonna be an interesting video, and unconventional leadership coach, international neurodiversity coach, and champion for you having incredible beliefs about the extraordinary person that you are. Thank you so much. Bye now.