Letting Go of Friends

It can be scary to face the fact that a friendship has turned into something unhealthy, but that is part of growing.

 

 

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Ok so, friendships, neurodiversity, and breaking up those friendships. That is what I want to talk about today because sometimes our friends can actually become our greatest bullies and we might not realize it until other people around us might and they might point it out. That recently happened in a conversation with a client recently, and his greatest bullies in his life that were harassing his success holding him back from success, harassing him on his progress and success. Actually, two of them had been his closest friends, but it was very apparent that they were struggling with his growth, with his success, all of that, and in turn were turning around and harassing him pretty heavily, and so breaking up with them can be challenging and as neurodiverse people there may have been times for us, not all of us, but for some people with ADHD, dyslexia, autism, that having friends was a big challenge and so you couldn’t always be fussy about who your friends were and you certainly didn’t want to move any of them out because you didn’t have very many to begin with. That’s a common story I have heard over and over again. You are and adult now and trust me, you are incredible and people want to be your friend. New people come into your life. It is absolutely one-hundred percent ok to release people that are being harmful to you, and if you are wondering what that means, that means that they are commonly putting you down, laughing at you, talking about you behind your back, those are the types of things that I have seen in the adult world that makes you question, is this a friendship or am I really just their punching bag, and you know what? You don’t need to be anybody’s punching bag. You’re immensely valuable.

So, just know, as a neurodiverse that is something. There is some anxiety around friendship and there is anxiety about leaving a friendship or moving on from one and as we grow, that is very probable and that is part of the natural course of life and it is a-OK. Understand that. Know that. Do not feel guilty about that and definitely definitely take care of yourself. So that is what my article is about this week. It is about that point where possibly the friendship has turned into bullying, things need to shift and figuring out how to work that and knowing that that is absolutely a-OK but it is something that maybe because you’re neurodiverse you’re a little avoidant of. I’m JoyGenea, international neurodiversity coach, helping people transform and just make an incredible life and great results. Bye now.

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