A leader I coach is making millions. The staff loves them. An outstanding boss by every measure.
The accountability task was simple: text me three wins a day. Two months in, most days the reply is that there are no wins.
Not because wins are missing. Because the target is 100% in everything, so nothing ever clears the bar. When the bar is everything, a real win never registers.
That is what an undefined enough does to a strong leader. You keep scoring and never feel the points. And a leader who cannot feel a win starts making calls from a place that feels like losing.
The fix is not more wins. It is a number. Decide what enough looks like in each role this season, so a win can finally count.
The update: they are now averaging two wins a day. That is real progress, and they can see it.
When did you last let a win count?
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That gap is not a character flaw. It’s everything but that. You aren’t being ungrateful. It is a math error your brain runs without asking your permission, and once you can see the math, you can change it. So it’s 10:15 now at night, and I just got off the phone with a client halfway around the world from where I am, and we have two very different cultures that we work in, and today was a perfect example of this.
That’s why I wanted to share it. One of his accountability tasks is to write down or text three wins a day. He set the goal. He is two months into the challenge, and most days he will text me and say he doesn’t have any wins. He is aiming for 100% in everything and feeling like he’s failing. His business is making millions.
His staff loves him. He is an outstanding boss, and he doesn’t know how to give himself positive feedback and to know what is enough. He is working on defining that right now,