You found the word. That is one step of three, and it is the easy one.
Naming a trait feels like the finish line. It is the starting line. This short walks the three moves that actually change something: name it, explore it with reliable data, then do one small thing and own the result. Your first attempt will be clunky, and clunky is just data you get to use.
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Why It Matters To Get Something Defined and Named Right (Part 1)
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Transcription:
That’s the aha moment. That’s where something that was in your blind spot, you might have had an awareness, but it didn’t have a name, and all of a sudden somebody’s like, “It’s a thing” and, “Oh my gosh,” like time bl- that’s how I felt when I heard about time blindness, and I had researched it and I was like, “Oh my gosh, I got this thing for sure.”
Then after the aha and after the data research comes the most important part, which is ownership and action, and that’s what we’re gonna talk about today. I’ve been talking about action in part two, knowing that- Action quite often can be clumsy and frustrating, and often we try something once and we make up a story that becomes a truth, which becomes a thing that stops us, that we are like, “Oh, you know, I didn’t really like that, so, I’m not gonna do that again.”
That, that is so not the gamified way of living life and doing things. That’s what I’ve really learned by hanging out with all of these gamification experts. That’s not failure. That first attempt that feels clunky, that’s just data. That’s just, “Oh, well, this kinda felt clunky. Next time I need to do it like this.
What am I gonna change? What little thing should I tweak and see if it doesn’t feel clunky?” And what happens when you come from that kind of framework and that thought process, it stops things that need or you choose to shift, not need to shift per se, might be healthy for your life, but that you want to shift, that you’re able to see as data and as process and as shift.
You get to keep the excitement in the learning. You get to keep the engagement to the point that it becomes boring and routine and just a part of who you are and how you do things. And that, that’s the value of the aha moment. That’s the value of doom scrolling is when you can s- take something from a, “Oh, my gosh, I think this is me,” to, “You know what?
Yeah, I definitely have some time blindness. That kinda gets all over people. Oh, wait, that also gets all over me. That’s cost me some jobs. That’s cost me some relationships. I maybe don’t love that. How could I possibly shift that now that I know, now that I know? Now that it’s not in a blind spot and out of my view, it’s in my view, which means I can possibly do some things about it.
I’m not gonna not have time blindness. That’s in my DNA. Gonna probably have that all my life. I can put training wheels on it, though. I can adjust and maneuver my life a little differently now that that’s not in my blind spot, and now that I’m aware of it. And that’s exactly what I’ve done. And those are the types of conversations that I think are so important in taking something out of that aha and putting it into, “Okay, I learned a bunch of things, and now, now what am I gonna do?”
‘Cause there’s a trap that happens, and I watch people fall into it, where they have the aha moment, and then this one I find really interesting. They go around telling peop- They’re like, “Oh my gosh.” This would be an example. “Oh my gosh, I have time blindness,”