This is my short and easy way of explaining self-talk and limiting beliefs. And why you should never let someone else talk to you the way you speak to yourself self-most of the time. Especially if you have not done some work around limiting beliefs and internal dialogue.
Pick one nice thing to start saying about yourself. Say it every hour that you’re awake for one week.
Here are some easy examples.
- “I have the power within me to solve all of my problems.”
- “I got this.”
- “I love and accept myself just the way I am.”
If you flinched saying most or any of those simple words of kindness to yourself, you might need to keep reading. It is time for a change and here’s why you will want to make this upgrade to your thinking.
“On average, 95% of our thoughts repeat each day, and 80% of the repeated thoughts are negative. The constant repetition of these patterns may cause a comfortable loop. If you don’t break the pattern, the loop will repeat itself. If you have a repetition of negative thoughts, you may have limiting beliefs placed within your subconscious.” By David Kasneci
Your greatest enemy might not be anyone other than yourself. I am not saying that other people didn’t say or do things that helped you to create these negative thoughts and build limiting beliefs. I have no doubt they did. What I am suggesting is that you have far more power to change this than you think or than you are applying.
Why am I adding in the term limiting beliefs you ask?
” A belief is formed through the constant repetition of claiming and feeling the same thoughts.” By David Kasneci
If you are claiming and feeling the same thoughts of, “I am worthless” Or “I am so stupid” Or “I never do anything right.” There is a high probability that you are fighting with life to turn out as amazing as you feel like it should be. I can see why. I hope you can too. You can’t say those things to yourself 80% of the time and not think that there will be a consequence. There is a consequence, you are stuck.
This is the short and simple, just take one step, article so I am not going to get into all of the science they have been able to prove all this with. Trust me when I say, you can change your brain and you can start today.
Back to my original call to action.
Pick one NICE thing to start saying about yourself and say it every hour that you’re awake for one week.
Here are some easy examples.
- “I have the power within me to solve all of my problems.”
- “I got this.”
- “I love and accept myself just the way I am.”
To support your goal, I recommend you to:
- Write it on your bathroom mirror and say it over and over while you brush your teeth.
- Print it out as signs and tape them all over the place
- Write it on sticky notes and put them in the bathroom stall you use every day. See if you can’t start a new goal at work.
- Write it on painters’ tape and place it on the window of your car at the bottom where you could read it at stop lights.
There are hundreds of ways to help remind yourself to stop being so mean to you.
I once put a comment up in a public restroom that said, “Stop bullying yourself. You got up this morning, you’re doing all right.”
I often make new clients start with simple projects like this and they think it is silly and dumb until they start to get in the habit of doing it daily. They catch themselves making a mistake and instead of saying something really mean to themselves, they say something like, “Well, heck that wasn’t what I planned and I guess I’ll have to figure this out now.”
Brene Brown goes deep into how much damage we do to ourselves and each other when we inflict so much shame, blame and guilt on living. Once we remove that toxic trash from being 80% of our thinking a whole lot of new thinking replaces it, and that positive thinking shifts the whole game of living life.
Shirzad Chamine in his Positive Intelligence (PQ) work actually gamifies the process of changing your brain’s neurology when it comes to how we treat ourselves. He talks about how so often what we say to ourselves, we would never ever say to another human being it is so horrible and mean. On top of that we don’t even realize it or how constantly it is happening.
Just for this week, maybe change one thing in your life. Change the way you talk to yourself.
You can do it!
Thank you,
JoyGenea Schumer
Business Owner, International Neurodiversity Coach, and Speaker