People pleasing is a challenge for many of us, but as leaders, it is our responsibility to move beyond it. That doesn’t mean we aren’t empathetic or flexible in our leadership, but leaders also need to be clear and honest.
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In my unconventional leader playbook, strategy number three is all about people pleasing, and ending people pleasing. While there’s a time and a place to compromise, to definitely be intuitive and empathetic for people, when it comes to leadership and in particular your staff, employees, and those types of spaces, that empathy is incredible until you move and switch into people pleaser mode, which means you are compromising yourself, you’re compromising the company, for that other person for that, for that employee those types of things. That is when you’ve moved into people pleaser mode, in case you’re not aware, and the reason I have it as number three is because it can be that costly and expensive for multiple reasons. It is very expensive on time and energy, it is extremely expensive, as far as it can cost a lot to have a wrong person in a wrong spot, like the mistakes that they can make, correcting those mistakes, the customers they could potentially lose, like you get it. You’ve probably lived it. And, the third thing is the amount of mental bandwidth it takes when you have- when you are participating in people pleasing, because you have to be thinking about your feelings and then ignoring them, and that takes a lot of energy, so that is why it is number three on my list, and it definitely needs to be addressed. You do not have to continue people pleasing. You do have to take actions that are going to be uncomfortable at first, and you are going to need to learn to communicate what exactly you’re asking for, what exactly the right outcome looks like, and what will happen if that outcome is not maintained, achieved particularly consistently. It’s really less complicated than you think, and the amount of mental sanity you will gain will be incredible. So, please, I strongly encourage you get a copy of my unconventional leadership blueprint. Read sec- it’s a one page, one page on strategies for addressing shifting and moving out of people pleasing in a kind and easy manner. I keep this stuff really simple, because I don’t like it any more complicated than that. Give me the bullet points. Tell me what I need to do. There’s some awesome actions in there, in particular just what I talked about; being clear about your intentions, being clear about your emotions, being clear about the expectations for the person you’re communicating with, and then being clear about the outcomes, should they not be achieved particularly repeatedly.
You know what? You can graduate from people pleasing, and you’ll really appreciate it. I’m JoyGenea, international neurodiversity coach, unconventional leadership coach, and a champion for the outside-the-box thinkers. Bye now.