Sometimes in the moment we stuff feelings into a distant corner, but we need to know how to come back to that so we can move forward.
Transcription:
Hey it’s JoyGenea, international neurodiversity coach. Do you ever find yourself leaving a social situation and feeling like your emotions are like a suitcase and you are stuffed to the brim and you barely have it closed and it just like the hinges, it just wants to let go and go *pachiong* and all of a sudden before you know it you will have feelings everywhere. That’s really common, not a big thing. Neurotypical people have those things, neurodiverse people definitely have moments like that.
Do you know a simple and easy process for releasing that so the whole suitcase doesn’t go *shpoing* and what happens sometimes when we stuff our feelings like that, they going “shpoing* and the feelings land on people that we love that do not deserve to have our baggage unpack on them, so a really simple easy technique that I use is what I call the Email to the universe, God, Divine, space, or Mickey Mouse don’t care who you wanna email. Don’t put any email address in it, but you pull out your phone and use that software and you can dictate to it what have you but you start an email and you just express all of those feelings that you have got stuffed in there that you feel like need to come out. You express them, all the judginess, all the meanness, like you let it out into that email. If you want to type it you can if you want to dictate it in there, oh trust me it will keep up with you. It will do a really nice job and then if you need to you can even add the extra stories or justify some, I have every right to be that way, she gave me this look and– whatever you need to do, but once you’ve gotten it out, you’re gonna take a deep breath and you’re gonna let it out and then I want you to write, in the same email, the great things that are going on in your life. The positive things, the laughter, the fun, the joy. That is also, you are having those feelings also. I want you to find those feelings, I want you to write about those. Some things you’re looking forward to, that type of stuff. It might be a lot less than the venting, that’s fine.
Take another deep breath and then if you used a piece of paper, tear it up, if this was the email like I suggested, you just hit delete. Nobody ever needs to read that email. If you want you can just scrape over the whole thing and make all the text disappear. Here is the beautiful thing about that, you are no longer holding onto those feelings anymore. They’ve left, and you’re no longer filled with all of those chemicals that go along with those feelings. You have unpacked those stuffed feelings so now you get to have a happier, more pleasant, peaceful mindset because you took care of yourself in the moment. You didn’t allow it to build into trauma.
This is my neurodiversity shared process. I hope that you enjoy it. I hope you give it a try, and I strongly recommend it because you do not need to walk around with all of those feelings all of the time. I’m JoyGenea. Have an awesome day and I hope this has helped you out. Bye now!