The reason I find names for things is not academic. It is practical.
When something has a name and understanding behind it, your operating system can catch it. You can ask the question before it costs you. You can step back instead of tightening.
The self-check for the Right Word Vice Effect is one sentence: are my feelings right now possibly because I am waiting for an exact set of words from someone?
That question is the pressure valve. You do not need someone else to release it.
There is nothing worse than being locked in a vice waiting for another person to free you. That is exactly what makes this pattern so costly for high-performers. And that is exactly why naming it changes everything.
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And so a big reason I find words for th- labels and names for things and come to you with that is to help you have the literal words and say, “Oh, that’s exactly what… Oh my gosh, I do that thing. I understand that. Thank…” Because what happens for us, I have this effect quite often.
Once I name it, once it has a name and some understanding behind it, all of a sudden now I can be aware of it. I can catch that trait and behavior and not allow it to be something that interferes with my life, that prevents me from having the robust, successful, incredible life that I’m living, and instead be an enhancer.
I can catch it early on and be like, “Oh, am I? Am I– Are these feelings possibly because I’m waiting for an exact definition, I’m waiting for an exact set of words from somebody?” As soon as I do that, I’m able to step back and go, “You know what? I don’t need that. I’m okay. I, I can see this clearly for what it is.”
extremely helpful in moving forward because there’s nothing worse than being stuck in a vice waiting for someone else to release that pressure valve. That’s frustrating. Now you can do that yourself. You can start to identify this possibly happening in your life, or maybe you know somebody and you wanna share this video so they can also learn a little bit more about the right word vice effect.